There are so many things in our lives that Pinterest has made better. I love being able to search for quick and easy ways to clean things and I’ve gotten more than a few ideas on how to decorate our house. But Pinterest isn’t always great for everything. No, Easter didn’t have my family planting jelly beans Saturday night to awake Sunday to find that lollipops had sprouted. I don’t make snacks for my child that include elaborate fruit skewers carefully color coordinated so that when they are displayed they resemble a rainbow nor does he take lunches to school that resemble bento boxes that have his favorite characters cut out of cheese. Our Elf on the Shelf is pretty basic in his mischief and we don’t make handprint (or footprint) crafts for every holiday. And I’m okay with that. And you should be, too.
Pinterest is making parenting much harder than it has to be. You ARE NOT a bad parent if you don’t do these things. Trust me. Believe it or not, I survived nearly 33 years without a magical elf appearing every Thanksgiving to help me celebrate Christmas (I bet you did, too) and a plain old peanut butter and jelly sandwich filled me just as well as any cookie-cutter shaped cheese could. We’re setting unrealistic expectations for ourselves and therefore setting a standard for parenting that many of us can’t continually achieve. Scratch-made birthday cakes in tie-dyed colors and elaborate styled photo shoots won’t make our kids remember their birthdays any more than a few snapshots and a grocery store birthday cake will.
Relax. We’re all making this too hard. I’ll admit I’m a bit guilty myself. But our kids need love and attention, not bells and whistles. An afternoon spent playing with trucks in the mud, having a tea party, or playing in the sprinkler is just as important to them as time spent in the over-the-top tee-pee you constructed out of reclaimed wood pallets. And trust me, store bought play dough is just as fun as homemade – and it’s a lot less time consuming. There’s no expectation for you to be a Pinterest-perfect parent. Your kids don’t expect that of you and you shouldn’t expect that of yourself.
Y’all this Lemon icebox Dessert is one of my most favorite Spring and Summer desserts. My Mom got this recipe from a very sweet lady named Deborah Hollon and she’s been making it for years. It’s got all the great flavor of a Lemon Icebox Pie, but the crust is what really makes it special. It’s almost toffee like. It’s really amazing! Y’all enjoy!