My grandmother grew up poor. But just as my buddy Christy Jordan would say, she was rich in every way that mattered. And her story to me about her favorite Christmas was perfect evidence of that.
She was one of six children. Out of necessity, both her parents worked to make ends meet and she was raised by her older siblings, as was so common in those days. Her father was a night watchman at a saw mill and her mother worked at a plant nursery. When Christmas would roll around though, poverty took nothing away from them in the way of holiday magic and excitement. Every year, each child would be presented with one toy, an homemade outfit, and a small assortment of fruit, nuts, and peppermint candies. And that was a big Christmas to them. Each year it was always her father’s job to go out and hunt for the perfect Christmas tree. That was his big contribution to the celebration and he took great pride in presenting the perfect cedar tree for trimming. Of course, running down to the tree lot was out of the budget, so he would set out in the woods to track down a prime specimen. One year in particular, he wasn’t able to find a cedar tree to suit. After hours of searching, in a last ditch effort to provide something, he cut down a holly bush he found. Back at home, feeling a little embarrassed with his haul, he set out to make the puny bush special. Finding a can of silver paint, he painstakingly brushed every single prickly holly leaf with a shiny coat. They added the few ornaments they had and one small strand of bubble lights. The result, as my grandmother would put it, was the most beautiful, amazing Christmas tree she’s ever had. It wasn’t about it being the perfect size or color, or even about it being a tree at all. The love he put into that tree made it beautiful. That tree went down in history with her and her family. And something that he thought inadequate, became the main focus of one of the most fond Christmases they ever shared.
Hearing my grandmother tell this story when I was a child, I remember trying to figure out how someone could be so excited about a silver bush and only one toy for Christmas. I mean she would reflect on Christmases past with the same starry-eyed look that I’m sure she had when they first happened. Today, as an adult with my own child, I have a much better understanding of the importance of a simple, but impactful holiday.
So often we get caught up in the holiday season that we fail to realize the simple things that make it so special. We focus our attention on buying the best gifts and decorating the perfect tree, when the real importance of the holiday lies in sharing the time with our loved ones.
This holiday season, I hope that you’ll take the time to pay attention to the simple things. For one day you’ll look back and realize they were the big things.
This recipe is one of those simple things that have always made holidays special in our family. Every Christmas would find this on my grandmother’s table. And now, I get the opportunity to share her recipe with y’all.
Ingredients
- 1 box graham crackers (14.4 oz)
- 1 cup pecans
- 1 jar maraschino cherries (10 oz)
- 1 tablespoons cherry juice
- 1 cup raisins
- 1 cup shredded coconut, firmly packed
- 1 1/2 cups mini marshmallows
- 1 can sweetened condensed milk (14 oz)
Instructions
- Finely crush graham crackers and coarsely chop pecans and drained cherries.
- Combine all ingredients in a large bowl and mix well.
- Turn out into a lightly buttered 9X13 dish and press flat into the pan with your hands. Chill at least 6 hours, then cut into bars.













Okay, you went and got me misty. The Christmases you described sound like ours when I was growing up: something to wear, one gift (if it was a prosperous year), and “goodie bags.” And I’m not old enough to be your grandmother!
I’ll definitely have to try this unfruitcakey fruitcake. Do you think it would set up all right if I put it in small loaf pans?
Thanks so much and Merry Christmas!
Jackie, I think it will set up perfectly in small loaf pans. Thanks for sharing. Enjoy!
Thanks!
I would line your pan with parchment paper.
This sounds so much like a cake my grandmother made years ago. Unfortunately I never got the recipe and didn’t trust my memory to try to make it. I am going to try this, by the way, she did make hers in loaf pans.
Thank you, Charlotte. I’m gonna give it a try.
I remember when I was a junior in high school and went out shirt sleeved into the woods to ge a Christmas tree. A yearly ritual except for the dress. will not say how many years ago that was.
thanks for this recipe. It is similar to one I had years ago and have since lost. Merry Christmas
Merry Christmas to you, too!
Thank you for sharing this sweet memory and the reminder of what is really important and meaningful! This recipe sounds so good!
Merry Christmas, Tina!
MY MOM ALWAYS MAKES THIS FRUITCAKE EVERY CHRISTMAS FOR AS LONG AS I CAN REMEMBER. WE STILL LOVE IT. MY SIBLINGS I HAVE 4 STILL REQUEST IT EVERY YEAR. IM A SOUTHERNER TOO.
My Granny also made an Icebox Fruitcake, but it was made with Nilla Wafers. After she mixed it up, she would roll it into logs, put it it the bag that the Nilla Wafers came in and would store it in the freezer – the only fruitcake I eat!
I love fruitcake, thanks for sharing
sounds good, and my gifts come from the kitchen. do you think it will work with cinnamon graham crackers?
thanks!
I’ve never tried it with cinnamon graham crackers, but it sounds good to me! If you try it, please let me know. I’d love to hear how they turn out!
Hi Stacey
I just tried the cinnamon graham crackers and it is delicious! Necessity being the mother of invention, I used what I had, which was walnuts and dried cranberries.
Since I will be giving some as gifts, is this something that has to be kept refridgerated?
Thank you so much for sharing!
~Deb
Wonderful! I’m so glad it turned out well! We always keep our refrigerated.
My mother used to make this when we were growing up. She lined the graham cracker box with foil, and packed the mixture back into the box. We always kept this refrigerated.